We are midway through the summer already. The days grow shorter now with sunset at 8:00. There are hints of fall in recent cooler days and nights. Empty green pods ring the outer edge of the lotus pond as more lovely blooms are at varying stages of opening. A dragon fly rests on a huge, round lotus leaf. I love how graceful it is and how it’s wings shine so delicately in the sun. The beauty of these shapes of life make me stop in wonder and celebrate all that just is.
The maple outside my house has dropped it’s seeds. The sidewalk is covered with them as they crunch underfoot. Every day now squirrels hang from the branches and eat their fill. Somehow it feels too soon.for the fall. And yet it is just about 6 weeks away.
As we look toward the fall, and a new season of our lives approaching, here is an article, Tending the Soil: Growing A Family, that can help you to tend the soil your family grows in. Help you look at the quality of balance and relationship that feeds your family and keeps it growing strong. I will also tell you about a new workshop, private session and series that I am offering, that give you even more help with cultivating that soil, for the weeks and months ahead.
Your partner in Growing A Family,
Tending The Soil: Growing A Family
In my own backyard garden, the Zinnias are growing tall, in bright shades of red, pink, orange and yellow. But the sunflowers, usually as tall as me by now are short and struggling. And one sunflower plant that started out so full is now a skeleton of itself, eaten, I think, by slugs. And the Bamboo and Hydrangea bushes have grown so much with all the rain, that they crowd out the bushes around them. I love them. They are beautiful. But there is just no more empty space.
If your family life were a garden, would it look something like this? Are some things like weekend family time really thriving but your partner time is struggling to stay alive, like the sunflower plant eaten by slugs? Are you feeling over-scheduled and crowded in like the Hydrangea? Is time connecting with your kids thriving but time taking care of yourself barely blooming at all right now? Are you concerned that screen time is overtaking your family life, your kids life, and you’re not sure how to prune it?
Here are some steps you can take to cultivate your family garden for the season ahead. And grow the kind of personal and family life that helps you thrive.
- Reflect: Before you plant more in your garden this fall, take time to reflect on your life right now. What’s thriving? What’s not? Where do you have too much of a good thing? What needs thinning out? What needs more fertilizer? Or replanting? Think about partner self-care, partner connection, connection with your child, family members with each other. And balance. Balancing scheduled and unscheduled time. Family time with work and activities. Time with and without screens.
- Imagine: How do you want your personal life, your family life to be this fall? What would even be ideal? Allow yourself to go there. What do you long for? How do you really want your family life to be each day? What is missing from that ideal right now?
- Prioritize. Set priorities for the fall. Make choices now. Before things get really crazy busy. Use your reflections and imaginings to make 3 to 5 priorities for the next few months. What you say yes to first. Name them. That makes it easier to tell others and helps you honor them yourself.
If you would like more help with this I am offering a workshop, a private session or a group series to get you started.
Workshop: A Mini Family Life Retreat: Tending The Soil. This workshop will help you take these 3 steps in a brief hour and a half. With the support of other parents doing the same thing. The fee is $20, $35 per couple. I will offer this locally. I can come to your home and offer this to a group of your parent friends too.
Private Session: A Personal Family Life Retreat: Tending The Soil, Designed By You. This is a private session with me, over the phone or in person, at a time that works for you. You have my undivided attention for an hour and a half. Helping you look at what’s working, not working in your personal and family life. You choose which area you want help with. You come away with first steps you want to take to grow your life into more connection, calm and peace. My fee is $125 for one parent or a couple.
Group Series: From Being To Agreeing: Planting Seeds And Getting Started. You might want more help than one session. More extended support. You may be ready to go deeper and make more significant changes in your life.
Come away from this series with: Greater insight into your family strengths and challenges around connection and peace. Knowledge about family life balance, screen balance and basic rituals of connection. Focused action taken on your biggest area of challenge, with group support and coaching. And next steps to take when the group ends, to keep you moving forward. This 4 session group will meet every other week for an hour and a half. The fee is $75 per parent. $90 per couple.
Interested? Contact me for a free 20 minute consult. Tell me what you’re looking for. Ask any questions you would like. I can tell you more about these offerings. I can help you decide what would be a good fit for you. No strings attached if it doesn’t feel like a good fit. I would just love to talk with you and see if I can help.
Your partner in growing a thriving family,
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